Most things in our lives are temporary, we mistake them to being Permanent.
Sadness and suffering are the result of unmet expectations and beliefs.
How do you feel after reading this? Do you look back at all your unmet expectation? Reliving them?
Do you express sorrow on what you have lost? Do you hold expectations and beliefs on what your life should be like?
As we go through this, keep those questions in mind and allow your mind to open up and respond.
I have been a victim of long-term planning and organization. Victim of believing that sticking to a plan is the way to go. And that when in a storm, you should ground yourself and wait for it to pass. That things you create, build and develop are here to stay.
We walk through life seeking permanence, stability and certainty. We walk through life expecting the things we love, work on, and develop to stay.
I have recently learned that most things in our lives are temporary, and we mistake them to being permanent.
In the past year, I have experienced the biggest changes and transformation in my life. And I learned that most things are not here to stay.
Almost every aspect of my life feels and looks different today, my relationships and communication with the people I love have changed, my environment and my lifestyle have changed. Going through this change, your brain automatically puts you in defense mode, fighting it, and doing everything in its power to resist it.
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them — that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”LAO TZU
It hurts, inflicting sadness and suffering.
Is this something you have recently experienced? Is this something you can relate to?
Our defense mechanisms take us from one disappointment to another, adding to our loss, and contributing to the hurt. Holding on to the past makes us vulnerable to even more loss, and defeated after each one.
We survive the change bearing permanent scars of having endured it. And we develop a humbleness in the aftermath of our ordeal.
I don’t come with a closed ended solution, I come with open ended questions to invite you to reflect and meditate on what permanence is.
What is keeping you stuck in resistance? Have you taken the time to sit quietly and explore why you feel this way? What needs to take place to let go? What are the permanent aspects of your life? Which of them are temporary?