How to influence your loved ones?

How does a sailboat sail upwind?

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It is almost difficult to imagine that a sailboat could leave shore when the wind is coming from the opposite direction. In fact, sailing upwind is all about understanding the physical forces hitting the sail of the boat and maneuvering the sail’s rotation to get the resulting pushing force needed.

A sailboat never sails directly upwind: it would be entering the no-sail zone, where the boat will stand idle and not move at all. Sailing upwind would require the boat to follow a curved path varying between 40-45 degrees while rotating the sail.

Steering a boat towards a specific destination is similar to making a change happen in someone else’s life. 

How can you influence and trigger change in someone else’s life?

You should know that we may all speak the same language, but we almost never fully understand each other. What might seem rational, simple and basic to you might be the total opposite to the person sitting next to you.

Changing someone you care for is not your responsibility, influencing him is.

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1. Find the North

This step is about defining the ultimate goal, a clear vision of where the person is heading.
It is about finding the other person’s north and not yours. Make sure you see the vision from his perspective.

Although the goal might look the same, but the vision of a bride losing weight for her wedding is not the same as the athlete who wants to optimize her performance.

Be the Leader you wish you had

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2. Create an Influence

Creating an Influence might be the hardest thing to do in this case. You need to be smart and specific. The influence you are about to create should not look like an intervention. It is an indirect factor that will regroup parameters around the person involved, offering him support, motivation and inspiration.
Consider yourself a leader and your goal is to make that other person follow you without using authority or dictating what should be done.

A watched pot never boils

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3. Watch the Sail

Do not obsess about results, and do not wait for immediate reactions. Watch the sail from a far; watch the beautiful journey on which that person is about to embark.

Start adopting an Outdoors Mindset

No one will be declared the winner of life

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The pack travels is a program we offer in which we cover great distances while carrying our backpacks throughout the whole trip. Before every trip, a meeting is held discussing the trail’s distance, landscape and difficulty; the necessary gear and food menu and finally the predicted itinerary for the trip. In fact, thru hiking demands a professional approach with a healthy dose of common sense, curiosity, foresight and training.

It is true that the point of heading out on an adventure is to learn your limits, but careless planning is sure to make you learn those limits much sooner.

Having an outdoor mindset is willing to walk into an adventure while keeping your eyes open for possibilities, bifurcations and new experiences. It is about having an infinite mindset that will lead you through an adventure in spite of the challenges that you may face and regardless of your initial planning.

The infinite mindset is the right one to adopt in times of uncertainty, when you feel that the world around you is not what you imagined and not even what had planned for. In life, there will be no ‘according to the plan’. You will need to adapt by adopting an infinite mindset allowing you to overcome your challenges and enjoy the journey.

Go with a goal in mind, but stay open-minded to getting lost, it is the only way to a real adventure

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So, how do you adopt that infinite mindset and what are the steps to follow?

Step 1: Plan

Set your crystal clear goal, and develop a plan. As previously said, going without a plan will make you face your limits sooner than you think. Focus on your vision, and keep it clear in your mind.

Step 2: Be Open and Flexible

The road won’t be smooth, things will go dark. Challenges will rise and will ripple your plans and strategies. Your predictions will change; you need to accept that with an open mind. Be flexible to what is happening, accept the change and most importantly respect your surroundings.

Step 3: Adapt

This is the chance for you to reinvent your plan and yourself. Working with the situation requires you to decide to change some things. Embrace that change; be creative in these uncertain times. No one was ever declared the winner of life; we just have to stay in the game.

See you at the top!

5 levels of leadership you should know

Knowledge is learning,

Leadership is doing

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For a lion, learning to hunt is one of the most important skills that it will ever acquire. In the early days hunting is a combination of instinct, observation, and practice for young lions.
Watching their mothers hunt, cubs learn by watching their mothers capture the prey, before going trying tactics and skills on their own.

Teaching is one thing but learning is another. So how do you make sure that the people you are working with know what to do or how to do it? What is the best leadership transition model? and how do you implement it?

Leadership transition model

John Maxwell defines the levels of leadership according to your level of authority, leverage and influence. We will dissect each level and try to understand on which level you are with your subordinates.

Ask yourself what level am I on with that person, you may be on different levels with different people. Knowing your levels with those people will allow you to become a better leader to them.

Level 1: Position

Position is the starting point. Anyone can be appointed to a position, which will give you authority over a group of people. This doesn’t make you a leader just yet, it makes you a boss, a person in charge. You have subordinates, not team members. You rely on rules and regulations to manage and lead without any influence or leverage. Your followers will follow you because you have authority over them and not because of your leadership skills.  

Level 2: Permission

‘People go along with leaders they get along with’

You have reached this level, if you succeeded at building relationships, bonds and connections with the people in your charge. You now have influence on them; they follow you and not your orders. Your subordinates will start working with you because you showed care, value and trust. This is the first real phase of your leadership path.

Level 3: Production

Reaching level 3 will require you to move from influencing others around you to help them become efficient and productive. Production separates true leaders from people who occupy leadership positions; you need lead your team into making things happen. Hitting monthly targets, building a community, lifting the spirit of the work environment, problem solving; are all aspects of you making a significant impact. Moving to level 3 requires a clear set vision, dedication, discipline and consistency.

Level 4: People Development

Shifting from Production to People development is a revolutionary shift in the organization’s structure. This shift will transform you from being a leader who gets involved in production tasks into a leader focusing on his people, their well-being and most importantly their own leadership skills. Leaders who reach the fourth level have gone beyond numbers and results and are now growing others as leaders.

Level 5: The Pinnacle

Growing others as leaders is every leader’s ambition, but seeing those grow leaders of their own is the culmination of leadership and the highest level. The pinnacle consists of developing leaders who will reach level 4 (people development) on their own. The individuals who reach level 5 lead so well for so long that they create a legacy of leadership in the organization they serve.
Leadership at this high level creates an unshakeable circle of safety, regrouping everyone in the organization and creating a unique environment where everyone feels fulfilled and happy. Level 5 leaders possess an influence that can reach everyone in the organization, this is why it is very important to lift up as many leaders as they can, tackle as many challenges as possible and extend their impact to make a difference beyond their own organization.

Set your Morning Rituals today!

Shift your story one Ritual at a time

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Hearing about all those successful people waking up at 4am, working out and following the exact same ritual every morning can be inspiring but also difficult to digest and implement directly in your life.
A morning ritual is a great way to kick starts your day, and become the leader of your own time. But sometimes, the morning rituals you hear of are far from the reality you live in and might not suit you.

Why a morning ritual?

A ritual is not a routine.
morning routine might involve exercising, showering, dressing, reading the paper and eating breakfast. In fact, a routine will prep your body for the day. It will physically put you on the go.
ritual may involve these same mundane chores, but a ritual takes on a meaning beyond getting a task completed. The ritual will set your state of mind; it will prep your attitude, focus and determination to be aligned with your daily goals and ultimately your life’s purpose.

Before going on setting your morning ritual, you will need to assess the mindset you would like to have every day, the right attitude that you will need to achieve your goals. How would you like to feel? Which mindset would you like to have in the morning?

A Morning Ritual makes you
the leader of your day!

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How do you set your morning ritual?

Think about when you feel the most excited, when you are the most productive, the most confident. Think about the days you wake up before your alarm. Think about the exciting things that make you jump right out of bed.
How does your body behave in those scenarios?
Focus on your breathing, on the power of your brain, your posture, your eyes and your movement.
You will want to replicate these behaviors to reach a mindset of confidence, productivity and excitement.
For some people, it is about working out hard in the morning, others might prefer a reading, meditating, watching a motivation video, listening to a podcast, writing your goals etc.

We are all different when it comes to how we like our mornings, but we all share one thing in common: Ace our day!

How to empower your Self-Discipline

Self-discipline is doing what should be done, when it should be done, whether you feel like it or not!

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January is often the month when the vast majority of people set their annual resolutions: adopt a healthy lifestyle, start a side hustle, learn a new language, the options are endless. January is also the month with the most gym subscriptions. Unfortunately, the majority of those new members don’t last past March.

Why do we lose our momentum? Why do we lose our focus? Why do we find it difficult to carry on with our set goals?

A system is only as strong as its leader.

Successful people all share one major component in their lives: Structure.

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Waking up every morning with a clear image of what should be done, in order to be where you want to be. Structure is responsible for your daily achievements, your focus, commitment and dedication. It is a list of small objectives, it is an action plan that will lead you to fulfilling goals and will eventually bring you closer to what you want.
Setting the plan is not the hard part. You know what it takes to change your state, but you simply refuse to do it.

The answers and the strategies are everywhere, the problem is, that we don’t follow strategies. We follow stories. Stories that we believe to be true. These stories are also known as a set of beliefs, which we allow to impact our lives and set our course of action. Following a strategy will require you to follow a new story.
In order words, following your strategy will require you to follow your story.

Empowering your self-discipline can only come from inside, it can only come from you. Start by focusing on yourself, understanding your needs and building a clear image of your vision.  This visualization exercise will allow you to see yourself in the future, to draw the scene you want to achieve. Once that image is clear in your head, something inside you will ignite a momentum; it is the beginning of what could become your breakthrough.

So, how do you shift your story?

Shifting your story requires a change of your state. Change your physiology, meditate, listen to motivating music etc.
Emotion comes through motion: everybody communicates well when they’re in their best state; everybody is a better worker when they’re happy and feel safe in the workplace. Thus, change your state and get to the right one that would serve your vision. Prepare your mind and body to follow your strategy, be prepared to follow through your success. Your story changes when your state changes.

Are you ready to turn your story into reality?

Start with Why

For you to live the best journey of your life!

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On a breezy afternoon, all the kids were gathered in the main plaza. In their minds, the plaza represented the universe. Each one of them had a vision, formed a game, created an objective, and was completely absorbed by the infinite possibilities provided by the world.
A few hours later, the parents came to pick up their kids. Each one of them sat in the back seat of their parents’ cars and opened their tablet to play. Bedtime was soon and there was school the next day. The infinite possibilities had to wait for the next weekend.

On that day, Wolfpack was born.

We are all born with the instinct to explore, to discover, both the outdoors and ourselves. We believe in the infinite possibilities this world offers us. We believe in a world where technology and education does not limit us, but rather opens our minds to everything within us and around us.
We imagine a community offering a bright vision, building trust and helping everyone thrive, be fulfilled and powerfully work together.
We imagine a world where those kids would never have to go back to their tablets, a world with a supporting network helping people unlock their potential and live the best journey of their lives.
The pack started growing, influence was tangible, and the people around us were impacted.

Confidence begets confidence

Learn to become more confident!

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A rock climber’s life is in the hands of the belayer. The belayer is the person who controls the safety rope at the bottom of the mountain.  When the climber shouts: “Belay”, the rope should be tight, holding the climber’s in his position.
Before any difficult or long reach move, the belayer needs to ensure that the climber’s position is safe and secure. Some holds are even hard to reach that the climber might jump to get it. Two scenarios emerge:

1. Either the climber succeeds and the belayer has to pull the rope and secure the rope again
2. Or, the climber failed at making the move and a fall will happen.

During the fall, the climber has only one way to stay alive, to rely on the belayer’s ability to pull the rope and keep him in place. The confidence of the climber comes from his courage and technical abilities in climbing, but no climber would risk a jump without trusting the belayer at the foot of the mountain.

Confidence: /ˈkɒnfɪd(ə)ns/  the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something.

The etymology of the word comes from: con (with) and fidere (to trust).

Confidence can be tackled in two categories:
Basic Confidence and Extended Confidence

Basic confidence is a quality of trust that you have in your abilities. This may vary from one person to another, naturally confident people can generally speak up, state their opinion meanwhile, less confident people might have a difficulty at talking to a stranger or need to think about it before doing it.
Both confident and less confident people within the basic confidence spectrum wouldn’t dare taking that climber’s jump. In fact, having a very high basic confidence allows you to explore everything within your common abilities. For example, a trapeze gymnast could perform all the tricks within his abilities, but he needs to know that there is a net beneath him before performing a new jump.
In order to reach to your extended confidence area, and start outdoing your skills and improving your abilities, you will need to rely on confidence generators: the belayer for the climber, the net for the gymnast.
Extended confidence is what will give you the power and the momentum to get out of your comfort zone and explore new areas. Confidence is knowing that someone is watching, someone has your back and will be there if you fail. 

Improving your confidence requires you to surround yourself with people who will encourage you to get out, grow and take the jump!

3 steps to avoid Panic!

Can you do something about it?

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We all go through periods in our lives where we feel like we lost control. Mary felt like she lost control when she got laid off her job due to an unexpected turn of events. Even though it wasn’t her dream job, and she was planning on quitting one day and pursuing her passion of becoming a chef, she didn’t see it coming. She wasn’t prepared. She didn’t have a plan and the changes around her were scaring her. She had no idea what to do. Mary started having panic attacks and her anxiety made her doubt everything she knew about herself. She had fallen deep into the rabbit hole.
Falling into the rabbit hole is finding yourself in the unknown.

So what can you do to avoid the rabbit hole? What can you do to avoid the unknown?

1. Do a threat assessment

Stop asking yourself ‘What if’ questions and stop visualizing alternative comfortable situations. This is not going to happen, and you will never be able to go back in time. Instead, make a logical and clear assessment of the situation you are currently in. Break down the problem and analyze different parts of it, leverage prior experience to calmly size up challenges.

2. Emphasize the positive and focus on what you can control

Ask yourself whether you can change anything about the situation you are currently facing. If the answer is no, look for other areas where you can do something. If the answer is yes, then focus on gaining back control of your situation. Mary had definitely lost her job; and she really wanted to become a chef, so what could she do about that situation, how could she become the chef she has always wanted to become?

3. The secret to calm and focus is in knowing the next step

Remaining calm and focused can be difficult in situations of panic, in fact, many people believe claim to have lost their path and have no idea where they’re going. Ignore unhelpful thoughts: thoughts that are leading nowhere and are feeding on your fear of the unknown. Make a decision and focus on the next step, stop trying to solve the large problem and the big picture; knowing your next step will put you back in the driver’s seat.

Every time you find yourself in an uncomfortable or panic situation, ask yourself: What can I do about it? Detail and write down your answer, it will reveal every step that you should take.

Follow this Recipe for Change

Why do you want to change?

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In anthropology, human beings are constantly changing, always evolving into hopefully becoming better versions of themselves. Every year, month, week and even every day, we wake up in the morning with a set goal in mind aiming at achieving it.

There are two types of daily goals: Finite goals and infinite goals.

Finite goals are in general short-term goals. They have set metrics, with a clear deadline and a clear concrete proof of achievement: buying groceries, or getting a haircut, sending an email or making a phone call.
Infinite goals are long-term goals without clear metrics, no set date and to achieve the goal you will be have to perpetuate the state in which the goal is achieved without necessarily reaching the ultimatum.

The same goal can be both finite and infinite, for example getting fitter: you could be getting fitter for your wedding next summer, or you could be getting fitter period.  In the first example, the metrics are set, the deadline is your wedding, and on your wedding day the goal could be achieved. The second example however, the goal is in a perpetual state, you will be getting fitter indefinitely for the rest of your life.

Any change you want to apply to your life would require of you to set your goal, and most importantly know which type of goals: finite or infinite. Setting goals put 3 parameters in play:

1. Why do you want to change?

You need to understand why you want to change and how bad do you want it. What is the pain and in staying the same and what is the pleasure in changing? This step is very important because it will give you leverage on yourself to remind yourself down the road why you are doing what you are doing.

2. Monitoring your change

Add Rituals to your day: rituals put you in a state and put you out of a state. For example, waking up 30 minutes earlier in the morning will help you get ready and be at the office 30 minutes earlier, which will make you feel more productive and help you plan your day better. Reading a book or writing your goals first thing in the morning will ignite an intellectual satisfaction in your brain and help you kick start your day.

3. Consistency

Focus on what you want and you will get to it. Focus on your diet, and it will get better, focus on your marriage and you will succeed, focus on your job and you will get the results you wanted. Focus is the key to maintain results and aim at better ones.
Rituals should become habits, waking up 30 minutes earlier for a month will eventually make it a habit, your brain will start waking up before the alarm every day.

To change your life, you need to change your physiology and focus. Life is like a camera, your lens can only see what you focus on.

How to choose your Leadership buddy?

Trust . Integrity . Forward thinking

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Many athletes have taken upon themselves the will to travel into a world where the biology of the human body is not made to survive.
Scuba divers, free divers and mountaineers have chosen to stretch the limits of their bodies and fight extreme pressure, lack or complete absence of oxygen, temperature change, environmental challenges and physical difficulties.
Our human bodies are simply not designed to survive these conditions, and athletes know that with each journey, they are putting their lives at risk. Equipment and trainings help them increase their levels of survival, but one main factor remains their only chance at succeeding: A buddy.
Scuba divers, free divers, climbers and mountaineers all have one thing in common: a buddy. A buddy is a person whom you trust and has the ability to act in response to any situation that you might be in.
Similarly, leaders should have buddies, people with whom they could talk about problems or situations that they are currently having, trust them enough to share everything with them and listen to their advice.

How do you choose your leadership buddy? Who are the candidates and what is expected from a buddy?

Choosing a leadership buddy might look difficult at first, but it is not.  These are the main 3 aspects of what your leadership buddy should have:

1. Trust

A buddy could be a subordinate, a colleague, a level-up manager or a friend. Your buddy doesn’t have to be older or have more expertise than you, although these qualities might be tempting, but a buddy’s trust is more important than his performance. Focus on choosing someone you trust.

2. Integrity

Your leadership buddy should have integrity and be honest about what he sees and how that makes him feel. Avoid people pleasing attitudes and personalities, go towards someone who is great at stating his opinion.

3. Forward thinking

Being honest, having a clear opinion, and criticizing might lead to a destructive attitude. A leadership buddy’s most important quality is to have a forward thinking mentality, to be constructive and push you forward towards achieving your goals.

Leadership is a practice, it is a sport, endurance and consistency are important but having a buddy will keep you in line with your vision, your goals and will help you overcome problems and obstacles that you may face.